It seems like today everyone and their brother has an opinion about how you should live your life.
We get pulled in so many directions. Media and culture present so many images that seek to define who we are and what our character and conduct should be. I have to admit, it can be easy to get sucked into all this, especially with our social-media driven lifestyles but have you ever looked at what God’s Word has to say about such things?
2 Timothy 3:16 says, “All Scripture is given by inspiration of God, and is profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for instruction in righteousness, that the man of God may be complete, thoroughly equipped for every good work.”
This truth is monumentally important because it means that God has spoken on every matter that pertains to a Christian’s conduct. We can search the scriptures to find the authoritative standard for all matters of life. God’s word is real, it’s relevant, and it’s for our good.
I’ve made it a practice to not just accept things in everyday living or Christianity.
I actually search out the scriptures to see what we are supposed to be doing and how we ought to be living, and I’d encourage you to do the same. What do the scriptures ACTUALLY say about God, man, salvation, church, worship, finances, families, etc…?
Search it out, and you might be surprised at what you find!
Anyways… I’ve been studying the Book of Titus (Chapters 1-3) and thought it would be helpful to throw together a summery of what christian men, women and families should look like. This naturally lead me to a few other places (Proverbs, 1st Timothy, and Ephesians) but by no means is this an exhaustive list on the characteristics we should each be striving for. I pray that it encourages you to search out more on your own!
Well, here goes… A Look At Biblical Character And Conduct… P.S. Don’t shoot the messenger!
Biblical Character for Men:
-Blameless (above reproach)
-Husband of one wife
-Head of the home
-Provide and protect
-Loves wife as Christ loved the church (willing to die and sacrifice for her)
-Has faithful children not accused of rebellion or reproach
-Doesn’t provoke children to wrath
-Not quick tempered
-Not addicted to wine
-Not greedy for money
-Lover of what is good
-Not puffed up with pride
-Has a good testimony among those outside
-Holds fast to The Word and able to teach with sound doctrine so he can exhort and convict those who contradict
Biblical Character for Women:
-Proverbs 31 example (inner beauty, respectable, fears God, industrious, family centric, etc.)
-Not given to wine
-Teacher of good things
-Loves and cares for their husband and children
-Chaste (sexually pure, without unnecessary adornment)
-Obedient to husband so the Word of God is not blasphemed
Biblical Character for Children:
-Obedient to parents so it goes well with them and their days would be long upon the earth (only commandment with a promise)
*Boy that section was easy…
Biblical Character For All:
-Deny ungodliness and worldly lusts
-Look forward to the blessed hope of the return of Christ
-Be zealous for good works
-Be subject to authorities
-Speak evil of no one
-Remember what you were saved from and that its the kindness of God that saved you through the washing of regeneration and renewal of the Holy Spirit
What an awesome picture…
-Singles, knowing what to be like and to look for in a spouse.
-Husbands that love their wives.
-Wives that respect their husbands.
-Kids who are obedient.
-Families, living with grateful hearts towards God and working together for the cause of Christ with an anticipation of His return!!
I don’t know about you, but sign me up! This is what me and my house are working towards!
*Side note… Most of the qualities I took for men are from the qualifications of an elder. I did this because Paul instructs elders to be the example for the flock and if they are the example than that means that all men are to strive towards those attributes. They may never hold the office of overseer or deacon but they still are expected to work towards those same qualities as the standard.
**Also, I find it interesting and telling that God’s mode of discipleship is within the family and through fellowship in the church… No special programs, just godly older men and women, instructing and setting the example for younger men and women. The biblical church is a family of families that is devoted to one another and is multi-generational!
The young and the old, walking together with respect and humility. How cool!!