Coloring in the Gray Areas

An important part of biblical discernment has to do with making wise decisions concerning the gray areas of life. Those gray areas, however, are not specifically addressed by the Scripture. It is left to individual Christians to form their own convictions based upon correctly applied biblical principles. That means many Christians can and do differ regarding those areas, and I might add, with vehemence. The passion Christians maintain with their convictions present a challenge to overall Christian unity. Among a host of believers, you may find a variety of expressed opinions on a number of subjects.

For example:

Attending movies
Streaming Netflix
Owning and watching a television
Listening to secular music
Listening to contemporary Christian music
Using CCM in worship services
Working on Sundays
Participating in Halloween
Long hair on men, short hair on women
Women wearing pants
Drinking (in moderation of course)
Models for courtship or dating
Whether to home school or send children to public or private school

Whatever the conviction, some folks are down right adamant about the ones they hold near and dear to their hearts. In fact, they can be so adamant, those convictions become so problematic they disrupt the unity of the local church. Tensions can arise when one group of Christians may not accept the convictions of another group.

How exactly do we address disagreements? How exactly should we respond to those fellow Christians who may have liberty in a particular area, whereas others are bound by conscience in the same exact area, while maintaining Christian unity?

This division among Christians over personal convictions, liberty and legalism, was in the early church just like it is today. Paul recognized the problem in the churches at Rome and he addressed their interaction with each other over these matters beginning in Chapter 14 and extending down to 15:13.

The weak and the strong

Before we dive into Paul’s exhortation concerning the Christians’ unity, it may be helpful to identify the two groups at odds with one another. First are those called the “weak in faith” (14:1). The idea of weak in faith is not so much belief unto salvation as some suppose, but it is more along the lines of being persuaded of the truth. It is what their faith in Christ allows or prohibits. Whereas on the other hand, Paul contrasts the weak with the “the strong.” The strong had liberty in the areas of disagreement where the weak did not.

Paul mentions three areas that divided the two groups:

1) The strong eats all foods; the weak only vegetables (2).
2) The strong make no values as to specific “days;” the weak do (5,6).
3) The strong eat certain foods and drink wine; the weak abstain (6, 20, 21).

More than likely, the two groups may had been Jewish Christians (the weak) and gentile Christians (the strong).

Jewish believers would still maintain sensibilities with regards to food and recognizing certain holy days. Gentile Christians, coming from a pagan background particularly, would not share those sensibilities. Their liberty offended Jewish Christians. Though there is no clear word from Paul in his epistle, it may had been that the two groups polarized themselves into separate congregations meeting at different times. Its similar, at least in my mind, to how churches in our modern world set up separate traditional and contemporary worship services.

In this passage (14:1-15:13), Paul confronts the disunity between the strong and the weak by laying out principles these two groups should honor so as to maintain unity.

One thing we do need to keep in mind:

It is important to note that their disagreements did not center around any doctrinal points.

In other words, there wasn’t any doctrinal purity at stake here. I mention that because some Christians who wish to practice separation will elevate non-doctrinal convictions to a place of orthodoxy and make them a standard for fellowship. But what Paul is confronting is personal opinions and convictions, not doctrinal purity.

With this introduction in mind, I believe Paul lays out four principles to maintain unity.

1) Refrain from judging other’s convictions

Paul opening comments addressing these two groups are clear,

Let not him who eats (the strong) despise him who does not eat (the weak), and let not him who does not eat (the weak) judge him who eats (the strong); for God has received him. (14:3)

Both groups were guilty of judging each other’s motives for their convictions. Usually in my encounters with individuals from either of those two groups, it is the weaker in faith who are the most vocal with their judgments against the strong. The strong are considered “too worldly.” I reckon it is easier to prepare a sermon attacking some perceived vice like drinking wine or listening to rock and roll, and those attack sermons play well to the masses.

Paul opens his words of reproof to the strong who despises the weak. The word despise has in mind an attitude of contempt. Basically one person looking down upon the other as being worthless. The strong are to repent of such attitudes of disdain. Additionally, the weak are not to judge the strong. To judge means the weak were condemning the strong probably with a mind-set of self-righteousness and being “holier-than-thou.” The weak equally needed to repent of their attitude.

Two reasons for repenting of these attitudes:

Both groups are saved. God has received both groups of individuals. Both are part of God’s Kingdom

God is the one who evaluates his servants. Each individual servant of God stands or falls before Christ the Lord. Again, there are no issues of revealed, doctrinal truth at stake, but matters of opinions when it comes to personal living. We as Christian have no place to scrutinize a person’s convictions unless those convictions cross the boundaries into sinfulness.

2) Christ is the Lord over both groups

Paul draws our attention to the divisive issues in the congregations at Rome: food ordinances and the observance of specific holy days. Like I already stated, the division probably centered around eating non-kosher foods and observing Jewish holy days. Though the two groups had firm convictions concerning those areas, they both are to be submitted to Christ as their Lord. If a person has liberty to not eat kosher foods, he must do so with thanksgiving unto his Lord. So too with the person who does not have liberty to eat, don’t eat with thanksgiving.

No person lives unto himself or dies unto himself, but is submitted to the Lord as His servant. That is the over-arching principle. (14:7-9)

3) Receive those who differ as brothers and sisters

The opening verse in this chapter states, Receive one who is weak in faith. The idea goes beyond just tolerating the person when you see him or her at church. To receive means you bring them into your fellowship, just like God has brought us all into His fellowship by the death of His Son. We are not to separate fellowship from a fellow believer because you do not have the liberty to watch movies, but he does. Nor are we to separate fellowship if you think drinking alcohol is a sin, and other believers do not and drink it on occasion. Separation from “brothers” should be the last resort and not something done easy.

4) Remember God in all we do

Ultimately, how we react to one another reflects upon our relationship with God. The outside world looking in upon us should not see God’s people as bickering and separating over food (14:20) or anything else as trivial. Pursuing peace with each other in those matters not only honors God, but strengthens the work of God in our world.

More importantly, and this is something I will expand upon in my next post on this subject, never are we to cause a fellow believer to stumble in those matters or make one offended by our behavior. That is a danger for the strong. We are never, as Paul writes, to destroy with your food (or beer drinking, cigar smoking, movie watching) the one for whom Christ died (vs 15).


This blog article originally posted on my personal blog October 2007

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  1. Adam Moritz 5 years ago

    Good stuff, sir. Thanks for sharing it with us. It’s so important that we remember that Romans 14 wasn’t written for us to point a finger at other people, but that it should primarily be used to remind us how to treat others.

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    Fredman 5 years ago

    Thanks Susan for the comment. I don’t read everything at the P&P blog, but generally, those individuals they identify are being false, are often times false and unsaved. Certainly they are individuals we need to be leery of. If you have some specific examples of what you mean about them attacking other believers, please feel free to post them.

  3. Susan 5 years ago

    Excellent article! You nailed it – doctrine vs personal conviction. It is exhausting watching groups like P & P continually make “gray” areas reasons to attack other believers and call them ‘false’ and unsaved. Thank you!

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