Disagreements – Episode #19
In This Episode…
- We have a special guest today. We welcome the Senior Pastor from our church, Calvary Baptist Church in Riverhead, NY, Dave Cooke.
01:38 – Segment 1
- The discussion gets started in that disagreements in and of themselves are not bad.
- Iron sharpens iron is a well-known Scripture. However, that only happens when there is friction.
- How do we handle situations in which we have disagreements? The problem of disagreements is made worse and more public by social media.
- We will be talking about two general types of disagreement. Those that are theologically based and those that are not theologically based.
- In theological disagreements, we cannot disagree about the essentials. You can find a deeper treatment of the essentials in our previous podcast on Theology.
- Everything we do is in love. In everything, we need to be representing Christ and the Gospel.
- We discuss disagreements of doctrine that lies outside orthodoxy.
- There is a brief discussion on the Middle Ages and how they viewed orthodoxy.
- Are disagreements different with Christians and non-Christians? Both cases, we must represent the Gospel.
- There are three levels on disagreement in doctrinal matters:
- Non-Essentials that are discussed in Scripture but are unclear.
- Adiaphora that are not discussed in Scripture.
- ”The Peacemaker” by Ken Sande lays out a view of three options during a disagreement:
- The perfect Christ Centered response.
- Dave’s wife provides wisdom with “It is more important to be righteous than right.”
- It is important to remember in all situations, we are talking to another human being.
21:18 – Segment 2
- We start to talk about debatable matters. In this, we need to be careful not to become too dogmatic.
- John holds onto debatable doctrine with an open hand.
- How do we know when it is a secondary matter?
- Is it worth disagreeing with someone especially on social media?
- We have a discussion on tongues as an example.
28:38 – Segment 3
- Nuts and bolts what are some parameters when we disagree on Facebook?
- We need to be charitable. If it’s a Christian, we need to have the view that they are speaking out of a desire to glorify God. Ad hominem attacks are unacceptable.
- What do we do when we see people spouting heresy?
- We have different levels of responsibility such as church family, friends, and others.
- We are talking to an image bearer of God.
- On social media, we have time to respond and we should take that time.
- We should remember on social media who are audiences are. Our primary audience is the person to whom we are responding, but we have a secondary audience of everyone who can see it.
- As such, we shouldn’t be so dogmatic in debatable issues.
39:36 – Segment 4
- The branches talk about disagreements that are not theological in nature.
- Doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure we’d talk about the 2016 election.
- Dave wrote an excellent blog on this topic.
- James gave his personal view on the election.
- Dave talks about how we conduct ourselves as shown in Ephesians 4. The unity of spirit and bond of peace turned into WWE Smackdown.
- We turn the discussion to how we should have disagreed.
- What do we do when we are doing things right, but we are being attacked.
- We don’t want to be contentious when we are talking to people about being contentious.
- When things are getting contentious we can diffuse the situation by praying together.
- We need to be willing to admit we’re wrong especially in secondary matters.
- In the end, it’s okay to disagree but we need to do it in a God honoring way.
Scripture Discussed in the Show
- Proverbs 17:14 Episode Verse
- 1 Corinthians 5
- 1 Corinthians 12-14
- Matthew 18
- Romans 14
- Romans 12:9
Resources We Mentioned in the Show
- ”The Peacemaker”by Ken Sande
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Episode Length 56:19
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